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Behavior and Discipline

#4: What to do when your child says NO!

2018-04-10
By: Elizabeth Vainder, M.D.
On: April 10, 2018
In: Behavior and Discipline, Kids, The Toddler Stage, Toddlers

What to do when your child says “NO”. Understanding that being a parent means saying no sometimes and helping your child understand why.Continue Reading

About Me

ELIZABETH VAINDER, M.D.

On Instagram@yourpediatricianfriend

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Hope is optional but available to everyone. 💗 T Hope is optional but available to everyone. 💗 These last few days of watching what is happening in Ukraine have been extremely difficult. Especially as it is happening right after the world has dealt with so much grief and pain in a pandemic. 💗 It’s hard for me to process it sometimes. It’s hard for adults, so imagine what it’s like for kids. They are witnessing so much. 💗 Talk to your kids about what they see. Limit the news and what you listen to and watch Be aware of the conversations you have that they may be listening to. Watch for changes in behavior that can indicate anxiety or sadness. Ask them questions. Sit with them a little longer at bedtime. Put your phone away and be present. 💗 Sadly, we can not control the actions of others and some things are so difficult to understand, especially war. 💔 But the truth is that there are ALWAYS more good people than bad. So look for them, be them and focus your attention and your thoughts on them. 💗 Today, wherever you are, whatever you may be going through, remember to never lose hope. 💗 Thinking of all of you tonight. 💗 #mentalhealth #kids #teens #hope
Good Morning! ☀️ Celebrating a Fourth Grade t Good Morning! ☀️ Celebrating a Fourth Grade teacher in Kansas named Rachel Harder. 📚 In the beginning of this school year she reached out to parents and let them know that if their child was: ✅Going through something stressful at home ✅Didn’t have a good night sleep ✅Was struggling through a personal private or family issue ✅ Any other situation that the parents were worried about as they dropped off their kids at school To simply send her an email with the subject line saying “Handle with Care”. 💗 No details necessary, no questions asked. 💗 Just a simple “watch my kid a little extra today” 💗 💗 Kids have struggled through this pandemic more than I think most people realize. 💗 Families have struggled more than we realize. 💗 A simple gesture such as this one is such a special way to send a message to parents that: ❤️Kids often feel sad, scared, unwell, tired, frustrated, angry etc and that it’s okay. ❤️Normalizing that no one is ok 💯 percent of the time is so important in creating empathy and support for students when they need it. 💗 I really think that this simple email might make the difference between a teacher getting angry at a student on a given day, instead of giving them some grace. 💗 What do you think about a “Handle with Care Day” for young kids? I think parents should have a pass for those days too:) 💗 Have a wonderful day! @yourpediatricianfriend #mentalhealth #kids #parents #teachers #teaching #handlewithcare #moms #dads #students #pediatrics #floridapediatrician
Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤️ A day to remind yo Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤️ A day to remind you to: ❤️Practice self love ❤️Tell the ones you love how much you appreciate them ❤️Remember that being in a relationship does not determine your self worth- you are always worthy. ❤️ Never settle for less than you’re worth. Have a wonderful day! Stay healthy! Thanks for being here 💗@yourpediatricianfriend #valentinesday2022 #selflove #selfcare #mentalhealth #pediatrics #parents #mommylove #moms #dads #singlemom #sanvalentin #diadesanvalentin #mamaprimeriza #mama #floridapediatricians
PSA:: ⛔️ Some At Home Covid Tests: ⛔️ Bin PSA:: ⛔️ Some At Home Covid Tests: ⛔️ Binax Now ⛔️ BD Veritor ⛔️ Flowflex ⛔️ Cellitrion Día Trust Contain Sodium Azide. Sodium Azide is a chemical that if ingested can be poisonous, especially to small children. ⛔️ Poison Control centers are reporting an increase in calls regarding the ingestion of these drops by kids. ⛔️ If applied to eyes can cause burns and should be rinsed immediately. ⛔️ If it touches the skin can also cause burns and should be rinsed immediately with tap water. ⛔️ If ingested, can cause more severe symptoms. ⛔️ Please keep this and all meds out of the reach of kids. In my bio you can see some handy boxes that come with locks that you can keep your meds in. ⛔️ Also save Poison Control’s Number on your cell phone 18002221222. It is a free service that is available 24 hours a day. You can call them about ANY kind of suspected ingestion or poisonous contact. Stay informed, Stay Aware and Prevent Dangers where you can. Share with a friend, save this post and have a wonderful day! 💗 Stay Healthy! 💗@yourpediatricianfriend #poison #kidshealth #pediatrics #moms #mommy #babies #parents #parenting
Good morning! ☀️ This week we’re talking ab Good morning! ☀️ This week we’re talking about sleep. 😴 Did you know that humans are the only animals that don’t sleep when their bodies tell them too? 🤔 God, the universe, nature created our bodies so intricately and sleep is One of the MOST important things we can do to stay healthy! When we sleep our bodies “repair” themselves. It’s kind of like a re-boot. A lack of sleep can result in a greater risk of heart disease, anxiety, depression, a weakened immune system, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc Daily it can affect: ✅ Your concentration ✅ Your patience ✅ Your memory ✅ Stress levels ✅ Less likely to make healthy choices like exercising and eating healthy 💗 This post is to share some tips that have worked for me. (I try at least!) when I do these, they help me tremendously! What are some ways that you help yourself and your kids prioritize sleep? 💗 Have a wonderful day and thanks for being here! #sleep #sleepingbaby #sleeptraining #motherhood #moms #momlife #mom #mommy #parents #immuneboosting #immunesystem
Good morning! ☀️ I hope you’re doing well! Good morning! ☀️ I hope you’re doing well! This morning I’m sharing some information about long haul symptoms of Covid and kids. 🦠 Did your child recently have Covid? Or maybe they had Covid a few weeks or even months ago. 😞 Are they complaining of: ✅ Headaches ✅ Difficulty Concentrating ✅ Chest pain ✅ Body Aches ✅ Fatigue ✅ Change in sense of taste or smell These are some of the symptoms of long haul Covid and kids are feeling it too. 👧🏽 👦 There is a lot of talk about Long Haul Clinics for adults but only some for kids. The first thing we need to do is recognize it. In this blog post I share with you the symptoms, what we know and when you need to seek help. Kids have been the silent sufferers in this pandemic. Most just assume they are having only mild symptoms or none at all and their complaints are dismissed. They have fallen behind in school, missed many life events, were not protected because they were the last to receive vaccines (and many still can’t receive vaccines) There is a lot we don’t know but we do know that: ✅ Even kids with mild or even asymptomatic Covid can develop Long Haul Symptoms ✅ Teens who received the Covid vaccine have 50% less long haul symptoms than those who didn’t ✅ Overall the long haul symptoms seem to improve with time. ✅ There are on going studies looking at this very problem. If you’re interested in these studies you can read about them In the post. 💗If you suspect your child may be suffering from long haul symptoms of Covid, read my post by clicking in my bio, and look at the resources available popping up around the country. And if your child has been complaining of weird symptoms lately, pause, listen to them and take them to see their doctor. 💗 I worry about all of these kids. We need to help them and it begins through awareness that there even is a problem. Save this post, share with a friend. #longhaul #longhaulerscovid19 #kidshealth #covidsymptoms #pediatrician #pediatrics
Hi there! 💗 It’s Dr Vainder here! 💗 If you Hi there! 💗 It’s Dr Vainder here! 💗 If you’re a new follower, welcome:) I’m a board certified pediatrician that is passionate about the physical and mental health of kids and parents. 💗 Last week I shared some practical ways to help build resilience in kids. Here’s a summary - there are lots more ways too! 💗 We are living during a time which can leave kids feeling helpless and afraid. 💗 Teaching resilience is so important and begins when your child is a baby. 💗 The first way is by building Competence. Competence is helping your child feel like they can handle a situation. 💗 As a parent your first instinct may be to swoop in and fix things or make it easier for your child when they struggle. 💗 Second is by building their confidence. When kids realize they can do something or learn a new skill, they begin to feel more confident. Confidence builds resilience. 💗 Third is by building connections. Nurturing healthy relationships with family, friends and community helps children feel secure and helps them to grow as a person. 💗 Last, but certainly not least is developing healthy coping skills. Ask kids how they think they should handle a situation. Kids are very insightful! Help them come up with healthy ways of coping like going for a walk, deep breathing, etc. Also help them focus on what they can control. Their bedtime, the food they eat, moving their bodies. All of it:) 💗 Save this post as a reminder when your child is feeling overwhelmed or struggling. 💗 And remember…it’s okay to not have all the answers, it’s okay to cry 💗 Sometimes all they need is a hug. (Us too:) Share! 💗💗 Have a wonderful Day! #drvcares #resilience #mommysupport #strongkids #parenting #parents #drmom #moms #dads #mentalhealth #pediatrics #pediatrician
Good morning! ♥️ Today is February 4,2022 and Good morning! ♥️ Today is February 4,2022 and it’s also Wear Red Day! ♥️ Wear Red Day started in 2004 to bring awareness to women’s health and cardiovascular disease ♥️ Did you know: ♥️Cardiovascular Disease is the #1 cause of death in women? ♥️ It’s the #1 killer of new moms and accounts for 1/3 of maternal deaths ♥️ Black women have some of the highest rates of maternal mortality ♥️Hispanic women are likely to develop heart disease 10 years earlier than non Hispanics ♥️ Most cardiovascular disease can be prevented with nutrition, moving more & controlling hypertension. ♥️Women are more likely than men to experience some of the other common symptoms- like shortness of breath, nausea, vomiting and back or jaw pain. ♥️ This is why it’s so important to get regular check ups, go to your prenatal appointments. ♥️ Women spend so much time taking care of others that they sometimes forget to take care of themselves until it’s too late ♥️ So today, I wear Red for ME, for YOU, for my FAMILY and for all WOMEN. ♥️ Have a beautiful day and a wonderful weekend. Stay aware. Share with a friend, make an appointment for a check up with your doctor and take care of you. #wearredday #heartawarenessmonth #womenshealth #moms #mothers #womenphysicians #mommyissues #latinwomen #hispanicphysicians
Good Morning!! ☀️ Today is National Women Phy Good Morning!! ☀️ Today is National Women Physician Day! 💗 👩🏻‍⚕️ We celebrate it today because today was the birthday of Elizabeth Blackwell. The first woman to receive an M.D. in the United States in 1849. 💗 While that seems so long ago, still only 36% of physicians are women as of 2020. Even less minorities with only 5% Black and 5.8% Hispanic (proud to be in this category) 💗 Becoming a physician is demanding and I saw many of my colleagues go through medical school and or residency either pregnant or with children, since usually people go through this during the time many women choose to have children. 💗 It’s not easy....I for one have had the privilege of being taken care of by some amazing women physicians that have helped me through many stages of my life 💗 Maybe you have too? If you have, maybe reach out today to say thanks... 💗 These last few months have been hard for physicians and many of these are also moms, wives, sisters, friends and loved ones 💗 Today I wanted to let all the women physicians out there know that you are appreciated and your hard work does not go unnoticed. 💗 Thank you for all that you do everyday. 💗 Tag a woman physician that you love or admire and write their name below. 💗 I love to follow and support my fellow women physicians 💗 #womanphysicianday #womenphysicians #pediatrics #moms #parents #doctor #hispanicphysicians #blackphysicians #latinphysicians #doctormomtribe #doctormomlife #physicians #womensupportingwomen #
Hi there! 💗 Happy Monday! ☀️ Thanks for be Hi there! 💗 Happy Monday! ☀️ Thanks for being here & following. If you’re a new follower, I’m Dr. Vainder and I’m a pediatrician that’s passionate about helping kids and parents stay physically & mentally healthy. ❤️ Today is my last post on 30 days from Mom-to-be to Confident Mom in the first year of your baby’s life. The practical tools and knowledge you need to get you through your baby’s first year with confidence. 💗 Today is Day 30! - you made it! 💗 Today’s post is about what I wish every mom knew about motherhood. 💗 Every mother is unique. Every child is unique. The beauty of each relationship between a mother and a child is embracing this truth. 💗 Every child you have will teach you something about yourself that you never knew. 💗 Listen, learn, forgive, accept, trust, laugh, cry, and of course love. You will need all of it. 💗 Have a wonderful week! Thank you for showing up for your kids and your families. It does not go unnoticed. 💗 Double tap & share with a friend. 💗💗 This week I will share with ways to teach your kids about resilience- the ability to exist in a less than perfect world. 💗 Thanks for being here 💗 What’s your favorite part of being a mom? #baby #moms #motherhood #newmoms #mamaprimeriza #mamas #parent #parenting #mommylife #mommyandme #motherhood #parentingwithpurpose #babyshower #babyboy #babygirl #motherlove
Hi there! 💗 Good Morning!! ☀️ Thanks for Hi there! 💗 Good Morning!! ☀️ Thanks for being here & following. If you’re a new follower, I’m Dr. Vainder and I’m a pediatrician that’s passionate about helping kids and parents stay physically & mentally healthy. ❤️ I’m completing your 30 days from Mom-to-be to Confident Mom in the first year of your baby’s life. The practical tools and knowledge you need to get you through your baby’s first year with confidence. 💗 Today is Day 29 out of 30 (woo hoo we’re almost there!) and it’s all about your baby at 12 Months! 💗 It’s an emotional time to see your baby reach this milestone! 💗 They have grown physically and emotionally in so many ways - babies change so much in 1 year! 💗 It’s important to remember at this age that every baby develops differently and has different strengths and weaknesses.(some will be early talkers and others early walkers) That’s the beauty of the world- our differences! 💗 Our primary job as a parent is to help nourish and discover what our child’s passions and strengths are. Listen to your baby’s cues, follow their lead and experiment with different things. Your baby will teach YOU more than you realize. They will teach you about them and they will help you discover a version of yourself that you never knew existed. 💗 Have a wonderful week! I see you! I appreciate how you’re showing for your family! 💗 See you tomorrow on Day 30 (our last day on this topic- feel free to go back and review the other tips on previous posts) 💗 Double tap & share with a friend. 💗💗 My goal is to provide real information about pediatrics and practical tips from someone who is always a mom first and a pediatrician (with over 20 years of experience) second :) 💗 I want to help you focus on what you REALLY need to know! 💗 What is your favorite part of the 1 Year old phase? #babysfirstbirthday #baby #moms #motherhood #feedingbaby #newmoms #mamaprimeriza #mamas #parent #parenting #mommylife #mommyandme #sensoryplay #sensoryprocessingdisorder #development #parentingwithpurpose #babyshower #babyboy #babygirl #motherlove
Today is Holocaust Remembrance Day. 💜 Two year Today is Holocaust Remembrance Day. 💜 Two years ago I had the honor and privilege of helping to organize some of the survivors to come and speak to high school students. 💜 Little did we know at the time that it would be the last time that we would be able to do this in person due to Covid. 💜 My heart is full knowing I helped in a small way to give them a day of happiness, a day to use their voices to share their testimonies and their messages of hope. 💜 Hearing these testimonies is always so difficult but hearing the messages of hope and holding on, are what I always take home despite what they saw and experienced. 💜 “For evil to flourish it only requires good men to do nothing.” - Simon Wiesenthal We must teach our kids to stand up against hate of all kinds. Hate is learned. No one is born with hate in their hearts. #neverforget #holocaust #holocaustremembranceday #drvcares #parenting #parents #pediatrician #pediatrics
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