10 Must Do Safety Tips for your soon-to-be crawler!

April 3, 2018

You see him in the corner of the room. He has one hand on the outlet and his eye on YOU. You say “No”, he stops, turns around and touches it again. Inside you feel like he is doing exactly what you told him not to! But in reality, the toddler is just soooo incredibly curious that his intrigue has gotten the best of him. He just has to know what happens with that outlet!

This is why it is so important to baby proof your home-preferably before your baby is 6 months old. At 6 months your baby will be possible crawling and may or may not be sitting. This new “mobile baby” can get into everything in your home within seconds! Baby proofing takes time, so plan accordingly!

  1. Lower your baby’s crib to the lowest level
  2. Make sure cords from blinds are out of reach
  3. Make sure your pool is secure with a fence
  4. TV’s should be up against the wall, not resting on furniture (toddlers love to climb and every year some toddler will lose his life because a TV falls on him/her)
  5. Use the back burners on your stove…always. Every year I have a few patients that get burned trying to reach the stove top…it is awful.
  6. If you take a medication, put it away when you are finished
  7. If you clean with something, put it away and out of reach. Make sure the nozzle is closed.
  8. Bathrooms and kitchens are the most dangerous places. Make sure doors are closed and or baby gates are in place. Only store non hazardous things in your bottom cabinets.
  9. If you have older kids, now is the time to put away toys with small parts that can be potential choking hazards for your new crawler!
  10. Make sure outlets are covered and electrical cords are tied together and out of reach.
  11. Bonus tip! – We are all busy and distracted. When you leave a room in your house, stop, turn around and make sure you left nothing out that can be potentially dangerous!

Your baby is watching you. You baby is amazed at all of the things that you do and of course wants to do them too! They are quick! Make safety a priority every day! If you plan ahead many accidents can indeed be prevented. Enjoy this phase…it can be exhausting but also incredibly rewarding.

-Elizabeth Vainder, M.D., F.A.A.P

My Why

March 6, 2018

Hi there! I’m so happy you found my page! I am a board certified pediatrician and also a mom.  I decided to create this website not as your doctor but as your friend. I am also a mom, just like you, so I know where you are coming from.

I have been in practice for 20 years and have learned so much from my children and my patients. This site is a casual site to share what I have learned. This is not intended for medical advice or consultations. I have just grown and learned so much in these last few years, that I wanted to share it with all of you.

I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, etc. but I am also ME and I want to share with all of you the importance of not forgetting YOU. I hope you enjoy my posts. They are intended to remind you about important moments and topics that come up while parenting.

Parenting is a beautiful but sometimes frustrating and frightening journey. I want to remind you that you are not alone. Many patients come in with the same concerns and worries regardless of ethnicity, culture or background. I have found this so interesting.

If we really stop to listen to each other we will realize we are more similar than we think. I hope you enjoy my blog. Join me every Wednesday for a new topic!

-Elizabeth Vainder, M.D.

The New Baby

The new baby
March 27, 2018
You are finally home after giving birth to your new baby!  You feel a sense of relief, yet so much anxiety and exhaustion. You look down at your baby and can’t imagine that anything in this world could be more perfect. You analyze them. You stare in awe.

Yes! You made this little human and he/she is all yours! The thought of that can be both terrifying and exciting!

You want to do everything right…you read books, ask questions…You vow to never do this or that. You will be the perfect parent. I see you in the office. I see the worried look on your face. I want to tell you it’s going to be okay. I want to tell you to relax and enjoy these moments because they are fleeting. You will barely remember how you worried about pee and poop and how exhausted you truly felt. The first three months will seem like a blur. So I tell parents to do their best.

The only thing you really need to do is “survive” these first three months. Do your best, respond when your baby cries, go through your list (is he/she hungry? dirty? tired? not feeling well?) If all the answers are no then maybe your baby is just having a bad day. We all do. Don’t tell yourself that you are a bad mom. Don’t tell yourself that you can’t do this. YOU CAN.

Your baby needs your love and attention. Your baby needs YOU. So the best advice I have for a new mom is…Don’t forget to take care of YOU too. Take a shower every day, go for a walk, sleep when you can, get out of your pajamas, eat healthy, drink lots of water, if someone offers to help you say YES! Your baby will be fine for a few minutes while you shower even if your spouse, mother, mother-in-law or friend doesn’t hold the baby as perfectly as you do. Trust me, the baby will be fine.

If you want to breast feed, do it. Go all in and give it a good chance. You really get one chance to really try and that’s right after your baby is born. It doesn’t take that long for your milk to stop coming if you don’t. The nursing baby is the best way for you to produce more milk. If you decide that breast feeding isn’t for you, or if you can not breast feed for any reason please do not tell yourself that you are a bad mom. We are lucky to have formulas that can also provide nourishment to your baby. It’s okay.

When you are having a bad day, remember all new moms have days like this too. You are not alone. Take a few deep breaths and admire the perfection that is your baby. Do something special for yourself every day. Even if it is as simple as talking to a friend or taking a bath. It matters. YOU matter.

-Elizabeth Vainder, M.D., F.A.A.P